I recently mentioned to someone that I had a good time and I am looking forward to the good times again. The phrase lingered on my mind for some time after the conversation. I didnt actually know how else to mention the time I spent as it was literally "a good time" that I enjoyed with actual only ingredient: "interesting / knowledgable conversation".
If anyone outside the context heard it, "a good time" could mean a lot of things.
So, what does having a good time mean?
For some, it is partying.
For some, it could be drugs and/or sex.
For some, it could be the company of someone while enjoying a movie/ show, etc.
For some, it could be a few good laughs with friends with or without pulling each other's legs.
For some, it is a romantic evening with a date/ partner.
For some, it could be a deep or interesting conversation on a certain topic for a pleasant experience and some insights.
This more or less follows the Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
As we go from partying, drugs, sex from physiological and safety needs to friendships and love to recognition and self worthiness to the highest level of self-actualisation.So what does self-actualisation mean?
Self actualisation refers to feeling fulfilled, or feeling that we are living up to our potential. One unique feature of self-actualization is that it looks different for everyone. For one person, self-actualization might involve helping others; for another person, it might involve achievements in an artistic or creative field. Essentially, self-actualization means feeling that we are doing what we believe we are meant to do.
Having actually had a good time in Self-actualisation zone, I have to say it is very addictive as it is the highest form of mental feel good, one can have.
There is no formal guidance for anyone to anyone to actually understand how each person can reach the self-actualisation zone. Understanding oneself through a proper system of coaching is one way I have found out.